The words "fair" and "deserve" don't really have much use in our mortal existence. Neither is a realistic hope, nor should it be an expectation. It was never part of the offer. So when life throws us a wicked uppercut, we need to remember:
We signed up for this.
It is true that we are hit with challenges we don't expect. Challenges that from a worldly, short-term view might appear unfair, or undeserved, but that is Man's view, not God's.
More difficult still, is when life takes aim at one of our children. Then I feel the words "fair" and "deserve" burning in my throat as I try to push them down, and remember:
Our kids signed up for this, too.
Then you wish that you could intervene. Please let it be me - not them. Let me take those hits. And in that very moment, maybe, just maybe, we are beginning to understand a fraction of the Atonement.
(Yes, I re-worked it and removed a SSW)
May you enjoy this Conference weekend. I hope you find the answers, the comfort, or the motivation that you are looking for.